- It’s not about you.
- Truth, wisely spoken, leads to thriving relationships. (25)
- Anger can become a platform for Satan transform you to be like him. (27)
- Our words and deeds are to be for the building up of others. (28-29)
Read Ephesians 4:22-32
Relational wholeness with the Spirit of God is essential to personal peace. (30)
- We were sealed in him—he is with us and in us. Ephesians 1:13; John 14:17
- It is a relationship that operates optimally when we yield to His leadership.
- Ultimately, we can delight him, and we can grieve him.
We grieve the Spirit when we choose a destructive path in our relationship with others. (31)
- Bitterness—holding on to an offense to a point where the mere thought of a person galls you.
- Rage and anger become your default impulse towards another.
- We “shout” (better translation than “brawling”) down another person to be heard over them.
- Our words are used to lower the standing (slander) of a person before others.
- Our actions become intentional in seeking the failure (malice) of another.
Harmony with the Spirit of God is evidenced in our relational wholeness with others. (32)
- Kindness is chosen as a response or action towards a person regardless of their attitude towards you.
- Compassion becomes the motive by which you engage others.
- Forgiveness is not withheld but freely given as one who has been forgiven much.
There is a direct correlation between the health of your relationship with God and the health of your relationship with others.
- Be proactive in settling matters with others before presenting gifts to God. Matthew 5:21-26
- Sermon on the Mount was primarily concerned with getting beyond the surface and dealing with the heart.
- You cannot fool yourself to think I can be right with God while I neglect brokenness with others.
- Be proactive in relational wholeness before participating in Communion which is meant to be a practice of unity before God. 1 Corinthians 11:17-34
- There is relational consequence between us and God when we fail to be unified in our participation of Communion. (29-32)
James 3:9-10 “With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. 10 Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be.”
Questions to consider:
- Am I grieving the Spirit of God in me by the way I am currently treating people around me?
- How am I doing in showing kindness, compassion, and offering forgiveness towards others—especially with those who are most difficult to love?
- Is there someone I have malice in my heart towards that I need to reconcile with?
Ephesians is dripping with deep and meaningful truths to cling to and particularly applicable to today. While we have certainly experienced more division in our country, in Christ oneness can be found. The unity of the Trinity is deeply sown into the DNA of those who are following Jesus Christ. The work of Christ not only ties us altogether in the present but it gives us unity of purpose as move forward into the future.